Week 6: Post 2

I was just talking with my girl friend about the subject the other day. We came to the conclusion that over time we have matured and things have started to matter more than looks and height and the way one dresses. A few years ago I would say that the characteristics and behaviors that led me to judge others as attractive or unattractive would be things like the way someone dressed, their height, and their body type. I feel shallow saying that. Duck’s theory makes perfect sense to me, when I read it I thought about the relationships I have been in and it seems to go hand in hand with what Duck calls the filtering theory. I have definitely eliminated someone using a sociological and/or pre-interaction cues, I think that most everyone has at some point or another.

A time I have used a sociological cue to eliminate a potential partner is just by living in San Jose. When I moved away from southern California I was eliminating all potential partners that lived at home while I was opening myself up to a whole new group of people in northern California. I have also used pre-interaction cues by judging people by first impressions. There have definitely been times when I have judged people too soon and reconsidered the judgments that I had previously mad. As I get older I realize that it is better to skip pre-interaction cues but of course that is not something that people can always help.